BY VASANA ABEYNAYAKE
“THE TRUE MEASURE OF A MAN IS HOW HE TREATS SOMEONE WHO CAN DO HIM ABSOLUTELY NO GOOD”.
Some people say that there’s no such thing as a selfless act. Sometimes people believe that anything we do to help another person that we get something in return. However, not all people do this just for their selfish intentions but few do this to feel good about them and show that they care.
Kindness is one of the most powerful actions in the world. As Princess Diana once said, “Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you”. A kind gesture and heart provide a huge stronghold against all the woes in the world, especially in this day and age. Kindness can help to and provides peace to everyone’s mind. One must never feel stingy with it as the world has a way of rewarding such generosity.
Kindness can help to and provides peace to everyone’s mind. Kindness is defined as being friendly, generous and considerate. In today’s society, kindness sometimes has the implication that someone is naive, weak, or even submissive. But being kind often requires courage and strength.
However; not all people are kind-hearted. Some people show concern just for the sake of doing it. They show they care because they want to be recognised. When you do a favour and expect to be returned, it would be as if you are doing business not kindness. Simple things become complicated when you hope too much. The truth is to love helping others simply with a good faith. We must never do good in order to get anything back in return.
The more you give, the more you receive. It’s human nature to want to repay. But honestly, it’s because giving is a gift. You can’t help everyone. But helping someone because you care and don’t concern yourself over the results, make you satisfied. People are usually good by nature. They want to help other people whenever they can. Some will even go beyond their means to help someone in need if they’ve been deeply touched by the circumstances of the needy one.
When you do good, you need to be sincere. You have to be honest with yourself. Never focus on whatsoever about you at all. You put that needy person before you. Selfishness destroys the greatness of an action. You may not want to get money or other tangible benefits from your good deed but wishing for recognition of what you’ve done is still expecting something in return; which is not right. Reality is it’s not about how big the favour was; it can be the smallest thing ever. You do things because you want to do them not because of any pressure or of any sort. Every time you do something, no matter how small or unimportant it may seem, and never think what you’re going to get in return, good deeds magnify and come back to you when you least expect them. This is an ideal time for good deeds as people are seriously in need of them in this ongoing calamity of pandemic with endless vulnerability and desperation. Likewise, generosity is doing something for someone else and expecting nothing in return. When you have a good heart, you help because you are happy with what you do.
People who care about you will be there for you in return. And even if they won’t you must never get disheartened; simply because you are that wonderful person who expects nothing in return by doing things for people. Change your plans for someone you love if yours weren’t too important without questioning whether they’d do the same for you. Forgive someone who wronged you because you have compassion for them, not because you know they’ll owe you. Give your full attention to the person in front of you when you’re tempted to let your thoughts wander just to show them their words are valuable. As the saying goes by; the perfect happiness of a man lies on zero expectations. After all, to be kind is good. To be kind without expecting anything in return is better!
BY VASANA ABEYNAYAKE